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Beware of High Conflict Personality Disorders: Implications for Mediation

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Joan Jutta Lachkar

Affiliate Member, New Center of Psychoanalysis, West Los Angeles, CA 91316, USA.

*Corresponding author: Joan Jutta Lachkar

Abstract

This work is an expansion of my groundbreaking book, The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple where I describe what happens when a narcissist and a borderline join together in a marital bond and do what I refer to as “the dance” [1]. Aside from this work, it has applicability to all kinds of couples including couples going through divorce. Many practitioners treat patients going through divorce experiencing difficulties with individuals with high personality disorders in legal mediation. This article applies mainly to narcissistic, borderline, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders and how their primitive defenses get in the way of reaching conflict resolution. Instead, they will fight to the bitter end to get their demands met even to the extent of destruction to self and others (spouse, children, family, career, reputation) until they achieve their final goal―revenge. Therapists and legal officials are continually perplexed as to why people continue to battle.

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Beware of High Conflict Personality Disorders: Implications for Mediation

How to cite this paper: Joan Jutta Lachkar. (2022) Beware of High Conflict Personality Disorders: Implications for MediationInternational Journal of Clinical and Experimental Medicine Research6(1), 81-89.

DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.26855/ijcemr.2022.01.014

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